Monday, January 10, 2011

When you ask for opinion ...

In our life, there are a lot of rules. The concept of rules is to make sure that people will have a guide line for thing that they are doing. There are the things that we can do and cannot do.

People always ask for opinion, either from their family, friend and even so sometimes from the internet. For me, when we ask someone opinion @ help, there are some rules that we must remember and follow to make sure the objective that we want will achieve.

1st, REMEMBER, when we ask for an opinion @ helps, let them (the person that you ask for) finish their idea/talk @ advice first. DO NOT ever interrupt them when they are giving the opinion/ideas. Doesn’t matter if you already know what the person is talking about @ if you already done the things that been suggest for, just wait for the person to finish 1st. then, in a polite ways, you can told them that the action had been taken already and TRY TO ASK for another ideas.

2nd, please DO NOT say “kot” eg : “ada kot”.. “dh kot” .. “bukan kot” .. Because its means that you are not confirm the matters 1st. When the person ask you back, don’t ever answer the things with “kot”.. If you not sure about the question that been ask, better for you to say “I would try your suggestion letter” yakni “sy akan cuba mcm yg awak cakap”..  There is no point when the person answered already your question and then you say “xbuleh kot”.. It’s better for you to try the ideas 1st, rather than arguing. Why?? Because you the one who ask.. Not them.. The person hardly try to explain to you, then is it polite to argue the things especially using “kot”.. 

3rd, it is very important for your to accept the person answer.. If you don’t agree, not need to express your opinion to them directly.. Better for you to try for another ideas.. And most IMPORTANTLY, do not force the person to answer @ give opinion based on the answer that you want.. For example: “green pants is beautiful right?”” .. I would say “no, better you choose the black one”.. Then it will be RUDE if you just keep quiet from the conversation @ you mad at the person because not agree with you.. eg : “wth?? I already told you that the green pants is the most beautiful one, how come you say that the black is better than green?” .. If you forcing them, so, what the points? It’s better that you do your own decision rather than pretending to ask for other opinion..Accept others opinion doesn't mean that you need to follow it..

You will not loss anything if you listen to other opinion especially WHEN YOU ASK FOR IT. If you think that the answer is not right, so you can still pick another choices.. The choice in your hand.. There’s no need for arguing because you will HURT the person feeling.. We all are the same. Just a normal human with a different life depends on Allah certitude (ketentuan)..   

When you become rich or be an important person in your working environment, doesn’t mean that you great enough.. There’s always someone that better than us.. 









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